We'd like to think that we have superpowers by working faster and smarter in lieu of the non-support. Let's face it, we are human, and fall short. We all used the TV for a "sitter" so that we could catch up on stuff that needed to be done or just process. We know that TV is a drug that keeps you stupid. 20 years from now some of the peeps will still accuse you of neglect for having been a single mom, for having done things that were immature, survival, lack of coping skills, needing space, being a woman, and not the mom and dad they "deserved", for picking a sitter we could afford instead of a Montessori School, etc.
We love to share and offer options. Throw out the TV and allow the kiddos to watch http://www.wimp.com/ documentaries instead. Some are fascinating, entertaining, informational, educational....
Spare yourself the entitlement guilt trip and teach them responsibility for their choices - but DO offer choices. Boundaries are not a lack of love but a safety net (of love) from a free fall to destruction of relationships.
We love to share and offer options. Throw out the TV and allow the kiddos to watch http://www.wimp.com/ documentaries instead. Some are fascinating, entertaining, informational, educational....
Spare yourself the entitlement guilt trip and teach them responsibility for their choices - but DO offer choices. Boundaries are not a lack of love but a safety net (of love) from a free fall to destruction of relationships.
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