was the cry of heartbreak from a single mother in Pittsburgh today. The first Christmas single, without the babies, financially and emotionally broke. Mutual friends and family are still frozen on who to side with and how to write history to have the desired conclusion. It's Christmas and we need to survive abandonment.
Here are survival options from one mom who went down that path to recovery:
Parents? She did not want to be the dark failure cloud over their Christmas
Grandparents? They would want to fix the chopped up heart
Relatives? No tight bond and would feel like imposing
Friends? We are not all equally blessed
Church? Right! Christmas is for families; theirs
with the kids, we can have popcorn, baked apples and read a new story together. Yes, it's Christmas and we don't have to get so religious as to convince ourselves how righteous we are. Enjoy the heartwarming story of The Snow Queen. Making cookies with the older kids? A funny seasonal movie?
without the kids, hunker down for the night after the candle light service and the right perspective. You have the house to yourself. Dream about all the possibilities and challenges you will have with all that "freedom".
Instead of a score card, re-write your life the way you want it to be. This is the perfect time to have that momentum. You already know what you DON'T want. You could also start on a study book: In Search of Dad, that will prevent future guilt trips.
If you need the comfort of family, you can find a strong family that endured grievous losses right in your area with your dignity and anonymity intact. You will have to trust me on this one to start reclaiming your life through non-critical understanding.
http://al-anon.org/
We have been where you are. We get suffering. We can help if you are willing. Tomorrow is a new beginning.
Here are survival options from one mom who went down that path to recovery:
Parents? She did not want to be the dark failure cloud over their Christmas
Grandparents? They would want to fix the chopped up heart
Relatives? No tight bond and would feel like imposing
Friends? We are not all equally blessed
Church? Right! Christmas is for families; theirs
with the kids, we can have popcorn, baked apples and read a new story together. Yes, it's Christmas and we don't have to get so religious as to convince ourselves how righteous we are. Enjoy the heartwarming story of The Snow Queen. Making cookies with the older kids? A funny seasonal movie?
without the kids, hunker down for the night after the candle light service and the right perspective. You have the house to yourself. Dream about all the possibilities and challenges you will have with all that "freedom".
Instead of a score card, re-write your life the way you want it to be. This is the perfect time to have that momentum. You already know what you DON'T want. You could also start on a study book: In Search of Dad, that will prevent future guilt trips.
If you need the comfort of family, you can find a strong family that endured grievous losses right in your area with your dignity and anonymity intact. You will have to trust me on this one to start reclaiming your life through non-critical understanding.
We have been where you are. We get suffering. We can help if you are willing. Tomorrow is a new beginning.
