Friday, October 28, 2011

Quoting Simon of Re-focus

The greatest thing any parent or teacher can give a child is the support to solve their own problems. The goal is not to force a kid who struggles to work harder at being like everyone else. The goal is help a kid who struggles to find a workaround for the specific thing that’s holding them back. The skills our children learn to overcome adversity when they are young will become their talents when they are older. And it is these talents that will invent and build the products and companies that will help and inspire the rest of us when they’re older.




Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Never Fear the Laundry Day is here… again!!!!


If only there were a way to take the fear and anxiety out of the never ending laundry pile! How do children do it?? There are only 7 days in the week, 24 hours in a day, 1440 minutes in a day and yet the laundry basket looks like the fountain of never ending socks, shirts and pants that continue to overflow into the hallway! OR the laundry basket in the only empty area of the entire house because the clothes are hiding in every corner of the house creating their own scavenger hunt in order to be placed in the washing machine!


Try this simple battle of the bulging laundry basket…. Take two laundry baskets, one is a dark color and the other is white. If you don’t have two “official” baskets, use two boxes or any type of container that will control the roaming clothes! Label one of them DARK and the other WHITES. Bring your children on this great adventure of conquering the stress of laundry day. They can be a great help and it will teach them responsibility. The rest is simple! The instructions are as follows: When you undress put your dark clothes in the DARK basket and put your light colored clothes in the WHITE basket. This gives even the smallest member of the clothed family a chance strategically through their clothes in the appropriate basket. Just think about it… those socks now have a chance to experience washing, drying and folding TOGETHER!! They will not fear being lost in the closet, alone in the washer or dropped from the dryer. They will stay together for many wearings and even experience their first hole in the toe together!


To complete this cycle, just wash the basket that is full first. The sorting of colors is already done, just dump the whole load in the washer, then dryer, then invite the family to help fold! Yes even the little ones can help fold washed clothes, socks, and shorts. They want to be involved and they are quite good with those small motor skills!


Giving them an opportunity to have ownership in helping from the beginning to the end will also give them the responsibility to fill the baskets each and every time!

Life is hard, Life is challenging and Life is full of possibilities! Grab a possibility and SOAR in LIFE!

Pam Lambert
Personal Life Coach
Soaring In Life…. Live with Passion
http://www.soaringinlife.net/
soaringinlife@yahoo.com

P.S. Pam is a new partner with Call Mom. If you have a question for her, let us/her know.
Hugs!

Sunday, October 23, 2011

quote of the week

from "Lies I've Told," two actors take turns telling each other some classic whoppers. Here are a few:  1. "It would be no trouble at all."  2. "This will only take a second."  3. "I didn't get your message."  4. "I have no idea how that got here."   5. "I thought you said the 16th."   6. "Would I lie to you?"

Domestic Violence Statistics


These staggering statistics are taken from the American Medical Association, Dept. of Justice, National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women

•Domestic violence affects women of all races.

•74% of employed battered women were harassed by their partner while at work.

•Homicide was the second leading cause of death on the job for women in 2000.

•More than 1 million women are stalked each year and over a quarter report missing work as a result of the stalking.

•57% of senior corporate executive believe domestic violence is a major problem in society and 66% believe their company’s financial performance would benefit from addressing the issue of domestic violence among their employees.

•Over 4 million women are victims of severe assaults by their boyfriends/husbands.

•1 in 4 women are abused in their lifetime in the U.S. Worldwide it is 1 in 3 women.

•Female victims of domestic violence are 3 times more than male victims.

•Victims of domestic violence are 85% female in reported cases. 64% are white and the average age is 31.

•Aug. 1989 to Jan, 1990 Midwestern State University did a study on a statewide mail survey of 6000 women. 50% said they had incomes above $35,000. 70% were Anglo, 10.4% African American, 9.5% Hispanic. Education profile showed that 18% had a Bachelors degree or higher.

•Women are 5-8 times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner.

•As many as 324,000 women in the U.S. each year experience intimate partner violence during their pregnancy.

•Male violence against women does more damage than female violence against men.

•Women are 7-14 times more likely than men to report suffering from physical assaults from an intimate partner.

•Rate of violence occurs most frequently among those age 31 and under. It is double the rate of the next older group 31-50. Average mean age of women in shelters = 30

•42% of women in prison say they were victims of abuse (1994 Bureau of Justice Statistics

October DV awareness and help

Website Links Information & Referrals

Pro Bono Services

Justice for Children • Nonprofit based out of Houston can connect litigants to local attorneys for pro bono legal services, Justice for Children does have very clear guidelines on who is eligible for these services and all litigants may not be eligible for its services.

ProBono.net • This site provides resources for pro bono and legal services attorneys and others working to assist low income or disadvantaged clients.

www.afbmh.org • Association For Better Mental Health

www.vinelink.com • VINELink is the online version of VINE (Victim Information and Notification Everyday), the National Victim Notification Network.

www.leadershipcouncil.com • National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect:
800-394-3366

www.stopfamilyviolence.org • Childhelp USA Hotline:
 800-4-A-CHILD TDD 800-2-A-CHILD

www.lawyersforchildren.com • National Center for Missing and Exploited Children:
 800-843-5678

www.themeadows.org • National Center for Victims of Crime:
800-FYI-CALL

www.nancm.com • National Domestic Violence Hotline:
800-799-7233 TDD 800-787-3224

www.custodyprepformoms.org • National Sexual Violence Resource Center:
 877-739-3895

www.stopabuse.com • National Organization for Victim Assistance:
800-TRY-NOVA

www.grandparentsforchildren.org • Bureau of Indian Affairs Indian Country Child Abuse:
 800-633-5155

www.kourtsforkids.org • Justice Statistics Clearinghouse
800-851-3420

ocrecallcommittee.org • The OC Recall Committee is a civic advocacy group.
Their main focus is Judicial Reform.

Recommended Books
The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse - Albert Ellis

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship - Beverly Engel

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

The Verbally Abusive Man - Patricia Evans

Stop Walking on Eggshells...- Randi Kreger and Paul Mason

Why Does He Do That? - Lundy Bancroft

The Abuser as Parent - Lundy Bancroft and Jay Silverman

If you need help finding additional resources, please send us an email.



Thursday, October 20, 2011

helpful contacts

The Araphoe House
Arapahoe House is a non-profit corporation dedicated to providing a continuum of accessible, affordable, and effective services for individuals and families with alcohol, drug or other behavioral health problems.
http://www.arapahoehouse.org/

The Colorado Caring Connection
Connecting our neighbors to bring help today and hope tomorrow
http://www.caringconnection.org/

Community First Foundation
Community First Foundation sponsors programs, activities and services designed to help people achieve health in all dimensions.
http://www.communityfirstfoundation.org/

Community Support Initiative
An innovative partnership between businesses and their customers, generating support for the nonprofit community
http://www.communitysupportinitiative.com/

Colorado Solutions
Colorado Solutions provides compassionate, residential care services in tandem with mentoring and community activities. We help people with intellectual disabilities find learning opportunities at every phase of life, and we forge partnerships with family members, health experts and community partners.
http://www.coloradosolutions.org/

The Family Tree
Reaching out to families in crisis
http://www.thefamilytree.org/

Metro Community Provider Network
Provides health-related services focusing on the underserved.
http://www.mcpn.com/

Stride
Families Achieving Economic Self-Sufficiency
http://www.stride-co.org/


Parker Task Force For Human Services (will be distributing 500 Thanksgiving baskets)
20118 East Mainstreet, Unit D
Parker, CO 80138

303-841-3460


Please send us an email if you need additional help.We want you to be safe and supported!

Hugs!

Giggle, Gourds, and Goblins


Mission Viejo Library
Saturday, Oct. 22, 10 am

Come join Beth Epley as she shares her unique brand of fundipulous family fun with Mission Viejo Library. Her songs and stories about the Fall Harvest and Halloween will be sure to keep you wiggling and giggling all season long.
Call the Mission Viejo Library for more information, 303-326-8600

Job Searching Basics

Aurora Central Library
Tuesday, Oct 25, 9:00 a.m.

or call 303-739-6630.

Use a computer to find & apply for jobs. Learn to prepare a resume & get interview tips. Ability to use mouse and to navigate the Internet required. Ages 13 & up. Registration required. Call 303-739-6630 to register.

free computer classes for mom and teens

Microsoft Excel II
Aurora Central Library

Saturday, Oct 22, 9:30 a.m.

or call 303-739-6630.

More info and practice with Excel. Ability to use mouse and previous experience with Excel required. We recommend you take our Excel I class before taking this one. Ages 13 & up. Registration required. Call 303-739-6630 to register

Turning Crisis into Opportunity

Turning Crisis into Opportunity

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Understanding Firearms Laws, Assisting Domestic Violence Victims

this might be of interest to DV victims who had a gun to their head and a promise from their "man" that he is applying for a concealed weapons permit in case he needed it for "self defense".


On October 26, 2011, at 2 p.m. ET, OVC will conduct a Web Forum Guest Host Session on understanding firearms laws to assist domestic violence victims. Join Rob Valente, J.D., General Counsel, National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, and James P. Vann, Division Counsel, Washington Field Division, Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives, for the discussion.

http://www.ncjrs.gov/justinfo/Oct1511.html



Monday, October 10, 2011

Christmas gifts for single parent families

Once again this Christmas season, James Resource Network is blessed to partner with another agency in the area to be able to provide Christmas gifts for many children of single parent families in need, whom we seek to serve in the Denver Metro area!

The application process is easy, but must be done in a timely manner prior to October 28th. Applications can be mailed or dropped at the following location: James Resource Network/SheShe’s Corner, 7562 S University Blvd, M1, Centennial, CO 80122. It is extremely important that each application is signed by the applicant and it cannot be altered in any way. We cannot accept any applications without a signature.

Delivery of the gifts will be on Friday and Saturday, December 16th-17th.. Someone 18 years or older must be home in order for us to deliver the gifts. Therefore, it is very important that all the contact information requested be supplied in full, including a good primary contact phone number and if possible an alternate contact phone as well. We cannot leave items with neighbors, or on the front or back porch.

We will do our very best to provide the gifts that are requested. However, we are unable to provide the following items: Xbox, Game Boy, Game Cube, Play Station, MP3 Players, IPods, IPhones, Cell Phones, TV’s, Computers and Wii Game Stations.

In addition to the gifts, each family will receive a holiday food basket. Because we have a limited number of gifts for children, we will honor the applications on a first come, first serve basis. For an application or any questions feel free to contact us by phone at 720-283-8832 or email jamesresourcenetwork@msn.com.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Remembering Steve Jobs +RIP+

Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.

(one of his comments)